Step by Step:
(1)
Pick up your date, tell
her that the date will be pretty spontaneous.
(2)
Pick a website (see
options below) and each pick 3-4 “relaxation ideas.” You can send your date a
link to these websites in advance if you would like.
(3)
Write down the ideas
(combine both lists) on a piece of paper and figure out how to go do them.
(4)
From here on out it’s up
to you! It really just depends on what you choose.
(5)
After 60- 90 minutes,
wrap up the last “relaxation idea” and take your date home.
Cost: Depends on what you do,
but I personally always set a budget of $10- $15.
What do you need:
·
A car.
·
A date that’s cool with
being pretty spontaneous.
·
Whatever your
“relaxation idea” needs
o
(Sometimes you’ll need
materials to draw with, sometimes you’ll need candles to smell, or fish to go
watch)
Where to get the supplies:
·
Here are the websites [WARNING - Obviously you won’t be able to do all of these relaxation ideas with
your date (i.e. bubble bath and a good book, or kissing) so be mature and adapt
the ideas as needed].
Ideas to mix up the date:
·
If you wanted to make
the date longer, you could each choose 4-5 ideas.
·
You could swap lists and
find a way to fulfill your date’s list.
· If it is cold outside,
either restrict your relaxation strategies to things that can be done inside OR
be creative and do "outside things" in an inside way.
Expectations:
- Relax but have fun.
- Find out how spontaneous and creative your date can be.
- How he/she likes to relax and enjoy life.
Final Thoughts:
You have to be pretty
spontaneous and creative for this date. This helps you learn a lot about your
date: what he/she is comfortable with and how creative and helpful he/she can
be. I start the date by picking up my date and telling her “Ok this date is
going to be pretty crazy and spontaneous and I’m going to need your help. For
this date we’re going to try out some different ‘relaxation ideas’. After we
both pick out our ideas, I write them all down on a piece of paper and tell my
date that we are going to do them all and we have to find the best way. We then
go do them! For one date, we had watching fish, drawing, listening to music,
and smelling candles on the list. So, we went to Walmart, watched fish and
smelled the candles there. Then we picked up stuff to draw with (crayons,
colored pencils, and paper) and went back to my apartment to draw. We put on
some soft music (according to the relaxation tip) and had fun drawing. But
really, this date can be done in so many ways. Maybe you find a fun spot and
try mediating. Maybe you dance. It just depends on what you and your date think
would be relaxing. After you finish everything on the list, thank your date and
take him/her home. If this is your first 3-4 dates with someone, don’t forget
to keep it under an hour and a half!
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